http://grrm.livejournal.com/67433.htmlSo much to express, words cannot convey. But, I do offer my Love to the parents.
I babysat my most recent niece, her mom being a nurse, and I was always super vigilant when she slept. I would always look to make certain her little tummy was inflating and deflating. The longest she was ever away from my attention was if I was in the kitchen or in the bathroom, generally no more than 15 minutes. If she had turned to the side or on her tummy and I couldn't tell, I would place my hand on her to make certain she was alright.
On the few occasions which her mom worked nights and her aunt was away, I slept in the bed with her. I have the belief that it is important for infants to sleep with parent/caretakers. They sense our breathing and heartbeats, and we sense theirs. I know that often her aunt would tell me that when I was out, she would often concentrate on the door several minutes before I entered. There were too many times when she was sleeping and I would quietly go to the bathroom only to hear her fuss and complain. So I know that she did sense me. Even now that she is 2 years old she acts like a happy puppy when she see me.
I know that there are significant risks to sleeping with a baby. If you are the type of person who sleeps extremely soundly or tosses and turns then of course you definitely would not want to do that. If that is the case, I suggest pulling the crib right up against the side of your bed so that they are touching. Even if your are a "careful" sleeper, I'd suggest getting one of those specially designed pillows. No child should sleep alone until they are 2+ years old.
If you are a caretaker of infants, you must, you must, you must physically check on them every 5 - 15 minutes.